His girlfriend said he was wrong, what do you think?
This man turned to Reddit and asked the community to determine whether he was an AH for kicking out his girlfriend’s family from his home. The man had agreed to host them in his house, but they just couldn’t accept that his dog lived indoors. Here’s how everything went down:
The man's girlfriend grew up on a farm and wasn't used to dogs being indoors.
It’s pretty clear that the girlfriend and her family aren’t used to keeping dogs indoors, and that’s not uncommon. After all, they live on a farm, where dogs are usually kept for work, not as indoor pets. And regarding dogs being allowed in the kitchen, many would agree with Mariah’s mom. It’s a matter of choice.
The woman's family wanted to visit, but her apartment was too small for all of them.
Mariah’s family wanted to visit, but her apartment was too small, and they couldn’t afford to stay at the hotel. She asked her boyfriend to accommodate her family, and he accepted. But instead of appreciating his offer, Mariah’s mother started making comments about the dog being in the house. The host promised he would keep the dog from bothering them. However, he asked them to respect the dog and the house rules, which allow the pup to hang around wherever he wants. After all, the dog lives there while they don’t.
One morning, the man found his dog outside, tied up to the fence.
I might understand the woman putting the dog outside. Maybe she was bothered by the pup, the owner was sleeping, so she had no other choice but to put it outside. However, that’s not what happened. She not only left Boots out but tied him to the fence with some rope she found… because that’s how they treat dogs at the farm. Only they were not at their farm, and that was not their dog. And I think we can all agree that’s not how a dog should be treated, regardless of where you live.
Understandably, the man was upset. He told his girlfriend's family to get out.
After discovering his dog tied up to the fence, the man told his girlfriend’s family to pack their bags and find another place to stay. However, while he is right to be upset, he is wondering if he was wrong to kick them out, considering they can’t afford a hotel and have no other place to go. His girlfriend agreed with him that her Mom was wrong, but thought he wasn’t right to kick them out.
So what do you think? Should he have let them stay?
Here’s what other people said:
The woman’s gesture was intended to prove a point. She could have just let the dog out, where he loves being anyway!
It is a matter of respect.
When someone allows you to stay in their home because you can’t afford a hotel, you have to show them respect. And follow the rules of that house, even if you don’t like them.
She was trying to impose her point of view.
Many in-laws do that. Instead of finding common ground with the new family member, they push their opinions and beliefs and expect them to ‘obey’.
If Mariah is close to her family, their relationship will suffer a lot.
If she did this to his dog, what happens if they will have a baby? Will the woman ‘educate’ his kids as she pleases? If she dares disrespect him like this while they’re not even married, can you imagine what she’ll do when she officially becomes his Mother-in-law?
Don't make me choose!
Don’t like my dog? Don’t visit!
Of course, this was a power play. And she lost.
They chose to ignore the rules, they will suffer the consequences.
Being kicked out is simply the result of their actions. The woman could’ve respected the man who opened his home for her, but chose not to.
They did it to be spiteful.
If you don’t like the dog and this man’s house rules, you are always free to move go to a hotel. Oh, you can’t afford it? Then stay home! Don’t hurt others! Especially a sweet dog.
They endangered the dog.
After this, I would never let them back in my house and near my dog.
They were guests, while the dog lives there!
She is a toxic woman who thinks she can control everyone in her life, has no respect for boundaries, and has a lot of hate in her soul. If she can afford to treat others so poorly then she should afford to stay at the hotel. You don’t disrespect a host like that, you don’t treat their dog like that, and you don’t overstep boundaries like that.
[not the actual dog]