Here are 25 habits we should all give up. Do you agree?
For some reason, I always find myself the subject of other people’s gossip. It used to annoy me a lot, but now I just let them talk and mind my own business. However, I can’t help asking myself how much they would be able to get done if instead of gossiping, they would actually do some work, or learn something new.
2. Listening to what others say.
People’s opinions about us only concern them. Everyone will have a thought on where you went wrong, or what you should do next. Please don’t listen to others. You know better. Follow your intuition, listen to your feelings, because in your heart, you already know what’s the best next step.
3. Doing things to excess.
Everything in moderation! When you start doing anything to excess, it will eventually harm you. Don’t drink too much, don’t procrastinate too much, don’t work too much, just do it all, but in moderation.
4. Blaming others for our situation.
Whenever things go bad, we tend to search for someone to blame. The boss had something against me, that’s why they fired me. The girlfriend left me, that’s why I’m doing drugs. How about we all stop blaming others, and start taking responsibility for our mistakes. That way, we can see where we were wrong, and what can we do to improve our lives. If you keep blaming others for your issues, you will never become a better person, remember that.
5. Hanging around negative people.
It’s so important to choose wisely with whom you’re spending time. Negative people will always drag you down, be very careful. They always find a problem in every situation and make sure to tell you about it, taking the joy and enthusiasm out of everything. They’ll make you feel bad about yourself and your life, they’ll cut off your wings when you dare to dream about something big, and they’ll point out everything wrong in the world. Every. Moment. Of. The. Day.
6. Judging others.
We never know other people’s stories, so let’s try not to judge them. We don’t know what pushed someone to make a decision. We don’t know what people are going through. I can’t stand people judging others. “Oh my Gawd, look how much weight she’s gained!”, “Oh my Gawd, did you hear she left her husband?”. Maybe he was beating her, Karen, shut up already.
7. Feeling sorry for ourselves.
I know that life is hard. No one’s having it easy. It may look like a beautiful spring day from the outside, but we’re all going through our own storms, and feeling sorry for ourselves won’t bring out the sun. So, let’s just be glad that we’re still here. Let’s celebrate that we’re alive, that we’re loved, and that things aren’t any worse. And let’s keep fighting until that beautiful spring day eventually comes.
Here’s a lesson we should all learn! Keep important things to yourself. If you’re doing well, don’t brag, don’t tell everyone, because they will try to take advantage of you. Toxic people are everywhere, and they come running when they hear someone’s doing well. And if things aren’t going well, keep that to yourself, too. Some can’t wait to see you down, so they can come and kick you some more. Only share personal things and important secrets with the people you REALLY trust.
9. Holding grudges.
Life’s too short. Forgive who you have to forgive, and put the past behind you. Enjoy your life, because it is seriously too short and beautiful. We’ve got too little time on this planet, let’s not spend it in resentment.
10. Watching too much TV.
The TV is toxic. They are poisoning us. I am sick and tired of people arguing, fighting, breaking up lifelong relationships, over who the best president is. Read a book for a change. Watch a good movie. Listen to some good music. Go. Out. For. A. Walk. There’s more to this wonderful world than politics, debates, and the news. And instead of enjoying it, we’re wasting time poisoning our souls with politics and bad news.
11. Settling down for less.
We are all unique and amazing. We all deserve the best in this world. Yes, you too. So, please don’t settle for any less. You deserve to be loved. You deserve to be treated right. You deserve respect. Your time is valuable. What you like matters. Your wishes and dreams are as important as everyone else’s. Please don’t settle for less than you deserve.
12. Focusing on the negatives.
There is something negative in everything, just as there is something positive. Whether we see the good or the bad… that is a choice. Those who will focus on the bright side will be happy, even if they have nothing. Those who will focus on the negative will be unhappy, even if they have everything. Please remember this.
13. Giving unsolicited advice.
This is a habit we all have to quit. In the past two years more than ever, people felt entitled to give others advice – especially health-related. Listen. I’ll take my medical advice from my doctors and my legal advice from my lawyers. The love and life part I can handle, and if I’ll ever need an opinion, I’ll make sure to ask for it. Please stop giving unsolicited advice, because you will eventually lose friends.
14. Looking back into the past.
Put the past behind you and move on. Looking back, stressing over what you could have done differently, regrets… they are all things that don’t benefit anyone. You can’t change the past. You can, however, enjoy the present and change your future.
15. Involving ourselves in drama.
Don’t allow other people to drag you into their dramas. Keep your distance from people who are constantly in a “situation”, and take a step back from things that don’t concern you. Otherwise, you’ll find yourself trapped in a drama that had nothing to do with you, to begin with.
16. Doing what is expected of us.
The most miserable people in this world are the ones who always do what they should, and never what they want. Society, family, our entourage may have certain expectations from us, but that doesn’t mean we should put them above our personal wishes.
17. Getting upset and offended over the smallest things.
I can’t understand this “I’m offended” trend. I really don’t get how people choose to get upset over the smallest things. Yes, it is a choice! You could be spending your day smiling and laughing, or you can get upset and offended by something a complete stranger wrote on Facebook. I’d rather be joyful and happy.
18. Chasing happiness as a destination.
Ever since we are kids, we chase happiness as if it’s a destination we HAVE to reach. I’ll study hard, and then I’ll be happy. I’ll finish school, and then I’ll be happy. I’ll get a job, and then I’ll be happy. I’ll get married. I’ll get a better job. I’ll get an even better job. I’ll retire, and then I’ll be happy. We check things on our list, hoping they’ll bring us closer to the destination that is happiness. But the thing is… it’s the journey that matters. Make it a good one.
19. Avoiding change.
Not everyone makes changes easily, I know that. But when things aren’t good enough, you can either complain about it forever or make the change. “There are no jobs where I live”. Well, move! “My job is stressing me out.” Change the job! Take that step. We are often afraid to make changes because no one can guarantee that things will change for the better. But we will never know for sure unless we take that step.
20. Putting ourselves down for past mistakes.
Forgive yourself. Everyone makes mistakes. No human is perfect, and if you’re a human, neither are you. Learn your lesson, put the past behind you, and focus on the future.
21. Comparing ourselves to others.
I really wish we could all stop comparing ourselves to others. We are not competing in a race. We don’t know each other’s full stories. We are all so different, what is there to compare? The only thing you should care about is being better than how you were yesterday. Move forward, focus on your own journey, and don’t ever wish to walk in someone else’s shoes. You never really know what else there is to their story.
22. Complaining about everything.
After hearing hundreds of life stories that are way worse than mine, I am no longer allowing myself to complain. I may not have it easy, but I am aware that others have it worse. And when I hear people acting like their world is ending for the dumbest reasons, I think about friends who have lost a child, friends who are battling illness, or people who have nowhere to live. You see… those are real problems. Your flight being canceled is not the end of the world.
23. Thinking we are better than others.
Some people still look down on others, like they could never – ever be as low as them. You never know what life will bring you, and I think it’s pretty clear that anything can happen. So, let’s just treat everyone the same way we’d want others to treat us. If we see someone down, let’s give them a hand, and help lift them up. Let’s act with kindness, not superiority, and contempt.
24. Counting on others to make us happy.
It’s no one’s job to make us happy. We are responsible for our happiness, and we should really stop counting on others to satisfy our needs, and blaming them for us being miserable.
25. Taking ourselves too seriously.
Don’t take yourself too seriously. Laughter is the best medicine, remember? Let’s stop getting upset and “offended” over every single thing, and start having some fun for a change. After two years of worries, stress, and isolation, I think we all deserve it.